Everything you ever wanted to know about sex but were too afraid to ask
A is for Abstinence
It really is the only sure-fire way to prevent against pregnancy and the myriad of nasty sexually transmitted infections out there. Furthermore, we often forget that abstinence is free of charge and always available—even for those who have had sex before. Having sex with your boyfriend or romantic partner once, twice, or a hundred times is not a binding contract for a repeat performance! Feel free to say no, stop, slow down, you name it, for whatever reason—no explanation necessary. And remember, a no to sex may be a yes to a much deeper connection that makes you feel even warmer and gooier than the beautiful act itself.
B is for “blue balls” which is essentially a tactic that b for blokes attempt to use to change your mind about a, above. If you’ve never heard about this fascinating phenomenon, let us fill you in—blue balls is a term for the painful sensation lads experience when being ultra-turned on and are stopped prematurely. Although there may be some temporary discomfort involved, there is no permanent damage. So, if you don’t feel like going any further, put your foot down. Firmly say no and remind him of the consequences. After all, b also stands for black eye, and worse yet…baby.
C is for Clitoris
Don’t let its small size fool you—the clitoris has more pleasure-providing nerve endings per square inch than any other organ in the human body (including the penis!) So, if you haven’t been acquainted with yours yet, let your fingers do some exploring! Feel for a small fleshy nub beneath a thin hood of skin located at the very top of the vulva in between the labia minora. Try experimenting with varying strokes and pressures to see what feels best. Once you discover what makes your toes curl, consider adding clitoral stimulation to your sexual repertoire during intercourse, or steering your partner in that direction during foreplay. In fact, some women who have had trouble climaxing from vaginal penetration alone have had amazing clitoral climaxes. For a mind-blowing orgasmic experience, try simultaneous clitoral/vaginal stimulation. And they said size mattered…
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