| You can break your hymen by using a tampon, but often girls break theirs by sport or other activities – and not all women are born with a hymen. Having an intact hymen used to be very important in our culture when we put a lot more emphasis on proving a woman was a virgin before marriage. Some cultures still feel this way. It’s a view that puts a lot of pressure on women and puts too much value on virginity.
Some girls bleed during sex whether they have a hymen or not. Many girls don’t bleed at all. Hopefully if you are aroused and well lubricated you won’t bleed.
Can a guy tell you are a virgin? Well possibly if it hurts and you are tight. But what’s the harm in telling him? He should know if it’s your first time so that he can go at your pace and you are able to say what feels good so he can keep doing it. A guy who is ready for sex himself will be fine about this and willing to learn with you about what arouses you both.
Some guys are hung up on whether a girl is a virgin. It can lead them to put a lot of pressure on a girl and act in a jealous or unpleasant way if he thinks she’s not a virgin. It can lead to suspicious and negative behaviour. I’m not saying that’s the case with you, but if that’s the reason you’re worried about a guy knowing about your virginity it may be worth thinking about whether such a guy is worth sleeping with.
Not sure if that answers your question, so if it doesn’t please email me back.
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