Sexual Activity
Hi! I'm Petra Boynton.

I'm a sex researcher with over 10 years experience. My PhD is on porn (truly!), assessing the effects of sex in the media. I train health professionals to talk about sex, and advise a number of organisations like the Family Planning Association, and BBC World Service on sex coverage. I've a regular telephone sex phone in on the BBC, and write several columns on sex and relationships.
Your Question
Me and my bf have been together for a year and 2 months and we’re both still virgins. But we do like rubbing our parts together and I always get an orgasm like that. The problem is, before I get an orgasm, I fell horny. But just after it goes, I feel so guilty!! Why is that? Thanks,
Dr Petra's Response
Sadly we still live in a society where some of us feel guilty about sex. It might be we feel we shouldn’t be doing it, or that we’re somehow bad for getting turned on. It’s specially a problem for girls as we’re often taught a lot about not getting pregnant or sexually transmitted infections – but not much about how great sex can feel and how pleasure is our right.

I would suggest if you are rubbing your genitals together when you’re naked you may want to consider having a condom handy just in case he has an orgasm. Even if you’re not having penetrative sex you could still risk a pregnancy from close genital contact.

But apart from that I would say carry on – enjoy the pleasure you are getting and don’t feel guilty. Orgasms are wonderful things and are only there to make you feel good. So let yourself enjoy them!

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