| I’ll tackle your vagina worries in a second, but first I’d just like to check about your motivation for wanting sex. Good reasons for wanting sex are because you feel aroused, you fancy someone, or you just want the excitement of trying new sexual things. Bad reasons are doing it just because your mates are, or things to do just to keep a lad happy. So hopefully you’re doing it for all the right reasons – not just to fit in.
Right, lecture over, back to your vagina ? I really wouldn’t worry about it being too tight. If you are aroused your vagina will open out so shouldn’t feel uncomfortable. A good way of ensuring this is to explore masturbation on your own – touch and rub your clitoris so you feel turned on and at the same time slide your finger (or two fingers) into your vagina. It should feel snug but not painful. Do this as a means of turning yourself on and reassuring yourself rather than feeling it’s something you have to do to be ready for sex.
When you meet someone you fancy explore together things that excite the both of you, go at a pace that suits you, and if something doesn’t feel comfortable or doesn’t turn you on then stop and try something else.
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