Personal Hygiene
Hi! I'm Petra Boynton.

I'm a sex researcher with over 10 years experience. My PhD is on porn (truly!), assessing the effects of sex in the media. I train health professionals to talk about sex, and advise a number of organisations like the Family Planning Association, and BBC World Service on sex coverage. I've a regular telephone sex phone in on the BBC, and write several columns on sex and relationships.
Your Question
Ive just starting to become sexually active with my boyfriend. But my boyfriend fingered me and he keeps complaining that my vagina really smells. I cant smell it myself but he keeps telling me about it and its really embarrassing because i think he may be going off me because of it. And i really dont want that because im really in love with him. Could you give me any tips to make it smell nicer or have i got an infection. He says its a weird smell so i cant really describe it to you.
Dr Petra's Response
All vaginas smell to a greater or lesser degree. At some times in the month – specially during the middle of your menstrual cycle you can produce a lot more vaginal discharge and smell more strongly. It’s natural and nothing to worry about.

Infections tend to smell fishy or cheesy and are usually accompanied by a thick creamy or greeny discharge. You may also find your vaginal area hurts or stings. Even things like Thrush (that isn’t a sexually transmitted infection) can lead to your vagina smelling, so can bacterial vaginosis (which is also not an STI). If you think you might have an infection you can get more information (including where to find a clinic to get confidential tests and treatment) at www.condomessentialwear.co.uk.

Poor personal hygiene can lead to a vagina smelling, but don’t be tempted to use vaginal sprays, deodorants or heavily perfumed soaps or shower gels as that can lead to irritation and make any odors worse.

If I were you I’d be inclined to see someone at my GP surgery. Ask to see a practice nurse and have a confidential checkup. They’ll have seen it all before so don’t be shy.

Finally, why is your boyfriend saying this – and how? There’s a difference between a partner being concerned over your health and trying to help and someone trying to put you down about your body. If it’s the latter, as well as getting yourself checked out I’d tell him his behaviour is hurtful and to stop it. If he doesn’t you might want to consider whether it’s worth staying with someone who makes you feel bad about sensitive issues.

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barkerr01
posted - 18/01/2008 19:27:00
your boyfriend doesn't sound like he is being very kind! and if he goes off you just because you smell different to how he wants you to then he obviously doesn't like you very much. you think carefully about whether you are prepared to let him put his fingers in you or perform further sexual acts when you have so little trust
rosexyalex
posted - 16/01/2008 10:06:00
i am an 18 year old girl and i have no boyfriend! i really wanna have sex but i i don't know how to come about it.on the other hand, i am confuse cos i don't wanna lose my virginity.what do i do?
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