| Some relationships can last a lifetime. But I have to be honest with you and say that they are also very rare. The main thing that keeps a couple together are good communication, the ability to be flexible, trust and honesty, and having independent interests as well as things in common. Given your psychological problems it is understandable you want someone with you – and the reassurance it could be for life. However, nobody can really guarantee that (I wish I could!).
So I would suggest trying two things. The first is to get appropriate psychological support so your boyfriend can enjoy being your boyfriend and doesn’t have to act as a therapist or carer for you. You should be looking for therapy that builds your confidence and enables you to be independent within your relationship. You and your boyfriend need time apart as well as time together. If you are not currently receiving psychological care ask your GP if they can refer you. Getting external support is an excellent way of ensuring you can enjoy this relationship.
The second thing I would suggest is enjoying the relationship in the present. If you keep worrying about whether things will last or wanting guarantees of being together forever then you won’t be able to enjoy what’s going on. So try and keep focused on how enjoyable your relationship is now, and develop your own outside interests so you’ve got plenty to discuss in the moments you are together.
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